Nowadays, so many men had either lied about their job titles/roles or even lied about what they do for a living in order to get a female interested in them. The first time I noticed this was when I was out with a friend of mine and we got chatting to some girls. When they asked us what we did for a living he said that he was a lawyer for Sony, I was a music producer and we had just concluded a business meeting (bear in mind that it was 11pm in a student bar).As an innocent wingman I had to play along with the illusion whilst trying my hardest not to burst out laughing at the absurdity of this situation since the conversation was not pre prepare. They asked a lot of questions and he even got a number. I was thinking too much about the consequences to lie about what I did for a living and I also wondered what would happen if I lied to girl who happened to be in the same field of that I was claiming to be.
Very clearly, it’s not the first time that something like this has happened, I have seen many men chat up girls and spice up their role at work and I always wondered if it really mattered to women. I started with my own experiences. Once upon a time I was a banker and if I went out with my colleagues we never struggled to engage in conversations with women that carried on for a long period of time. Perhaps they were just interested in the mechanics of our day to day as opposed to what could have been in our wallets.
I asked a few ladies about their thoughts on the occupation of a potential love interest. Most said that they weren’t too bothered and a few in the minority did say that they’d only date someone who earned above a certain threshold. The main thing they all agreed upon was that they wanted someone who was ambitious although their definitions of ambition ranged from someone who wanted to progress in their career and earn a six figure salary to someone who wanted to keep improving themselves.
Some ladies insist that they know that most men had lied about their jobs and incomes on first meeting. Things became different the longer they got to know them and they didn’t have a problem with it. Some said that had they known from the beginning that it was a façade, they wouldn’t have given the guy a chance whilst others said they knew all along and it didn’t bother them. 99% would not date someone who was unemployed. They didn’t want to be the sole earner in a relationship, neither did they want to end up resenting their partner.
Some of the men I spoke to agreed that at some point they had lied about their job roles, salaries and even exaggerated about what they did for a living in order to attract a lady. Their reasons for doing so varied from trying to get someone into bed to being unhappy with their current role and therefore lying about it. They all felt that women would be more impressed with them if they earned more money or had jobs that carried more responsibility and importance. They said this was based on the pressure society placed on them to be successful and also how movies portray the expected roles of a man as being anything and everything.
This is the truth in what all the people had to say. Women do want to feel secure and men want to feel like they are very able to provide. There are minorities of women who will only go with men who can provide for them in the material sense and there are plenty of men who are ready to lie about what they do for a living to attract women. Things are really changing and so many women are doing it for themselves and men in the other hand are becoming increasingly reliant on their charm and personality to find a partner with the hope of building something concrete together.
What else do you think may be the reason why more men lie about their type of job?
