Have you ever wondered why you attract what you attract? Friends, suitors, opportunities. A lot of these are linked directly to your profile.
What do people see when they meet you? No, not what you THINK they see, what they actually see.
This is the very question that a lot of people tend to answer wrong. We look into the mirror and see Mr universe, Miss world, we see all that's good. I am not asking that we push down on our worth but it is always safer to court humility even when overblown.
If we are able to see ourselves for what we really are, then we would know what we should be working on. To not know what/where we lack is to not know what/where we need to improve.
Growth will take us through different stages which require different things of us. Unfortunately, a lot of us mix up the requirements.
If you are looking for a husband, your profile should be that of an individual looking for a husband. This way, you help yourself increase the chances of securing one. This is not to say that one should hang an invisible banner of desperation on the forehead, you just need to look the part and be the part.
You cannot possibly be found at the club claiming to be searching for a husband or even a wife. (this is not to say that people haven't found partners there), it is very unlikely and when it does, frequently results in a mismatch. Everything about you needs to align with where you see yourself and where you want to be. You are not going to find a husband dressed like a "one nighter", same for how you talk, walk, behave generally.
Like all job interviews, the first thing a new contact triggers is a profile check (including preliminary analysis), If anything interesting is found then deeper analysis is done.
If the first thing ladies notice about you is arrogance, you are going to find it hard getting a good girl (actually, this part is a mystery as good girls keep going after bad guys) but generally speaking, a bad attitude will run you down fast.
Your profile is very important, your knowledge of the profile is even more important. Study yourself, listen to feedbacks and comments, assess from a third person perspective, there's always something that can get better.
You are a reflection of who you attract.You will see the first as an accident, the second as a coincidence, but from the third you should wake up to reality. If "timberland & baggies" boys keep walking up to you, it is an indication of what aura you are giving off. Similarly, if you keep attracting girls who just want your money, you are being shown who you are.
To keep doing the same thing the same way and expecting different results is not the smartest way to go about life. Embrace periodic positive changes, be not afraid to admit when you have been wrong as it is never too late to turn back and face the right direction.
If you dress skimpy, you will attract people looking for females who dress skimpy, simple. Husbands and boyfriends are not the same. While both are males seeking females, they are looking for different qualities, different things. People always make it seem like you need to become boring in the name of maturity hence resist the change, NO.
We already have a generalised mental image of what we call "material". (husband or wifey).
It's the same way we profile people who walk up to us. If you are not going to take seriously a guy on sagged baggy shorts, heavy chains, muscle top and tinted hair, while will you expect your own show of "civilisation" to be a hit? Wake up.
Decency still works, looking smart still rocks, intelligent talks, unforced walks, these are the things people first notice. To lack in these departments is to be dead on arrival. All the other things you have in the package? they don't matter if people lose interest before they know. This is one book that WILL be judged by its cover, then its contents.
You cannot totally control how people interpret what they see but at least you can control what they see. Help yourself here and there.
